If you have mixed feelings during the holidays...
November 18, 2020

If you have mixed feelings during the holidays...

A few days ago, a friend asked me, “Are you the type of person that plays Christmas music in November?” 

And any other year, I would’ve said no since I’ve never been one get overly excited about the holidays. To me, Christmas, like birthdays, was full of unwanted expectations and nostalgia, and I never knew how to approach it. I had all these expectations of how Christmas should be, warmth, family, traditions, and homemade meals, but it always felt somewhat lonely. 


My family is great, but we never had Christmas traditions or participated in gift-giving/putting up the Christmas tree (ours was up all year round). And anything my mom did to try to spark the “Christmas feeling,” like building a store-bought gingerbread house, felt unnatural. So instead of getting excited about Christmas, I quietly resisted the holidays in an attempt to protect myself from the fomo-ish feelings that came with one of the most celebrated days of the year. 


I’m not sure if any of you relate to this kind of loneliness/mixed feelings during the holidays, but if you do, please reach out. I’d love to cook you a warm meal or do a little gift exchange because sometimes we all need a little warmth, even if it's from someone you don't know. 


I'm not particularly outgoing, but starting this business has pushed me to interact with humans outside my normal circle of friends and has allowed me to meet some interesting people. I've mentioned our trading program a few times, and while living the #plantmom life through plant/mochin exchanges is great, the goal of trading is to meet more people in the small business community.


For instance, just today, what I thought would be a 15-minute business call about logistics turned into a 2-hour one about dreams, goals, and aspirations. I even did something very uncharacteristic at the end of the call, initiating to schedule another call the next week!! + with someone I just met!!


The point is, this year we’re doing things differently. We’re going to get excited for Christmas, we’re going all out, baking cookies, starting our own traditions, and doing something special for our friends, distant relatives, and strangers.


We’ve all heard the saying, “Christmas is about giving” and that “happiness comes from making others happy." We also know it's hard to set aside our own happiness to make someone else happy without any expectations to receive something back, but if you don't like where you currently are, and bitterness/avoidance never seemed to help why not try something new?

(image via pintrest)

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