A few days ago, a friend asked me, “Are you the type of person that plays Christmas music in November?”
And any other year, I would’ve said no since I’ve never been one get overly excited about the holidays. To me, Christmas, like birthdays, was full of unwanted expectations and nostalgia, and I never knew how to approach it. I had all these expectations of how Christmas should be, warmth, family, traditions, and homemade meals, but it always felt somewhat lonely.
My family is great, but we never had Christmas traditions or participated in gift-giving/putting up the Christmas tree (ours was up all year round). And anything my mom did to try to spark the “Christmas feeling,” like building a store-bought gingerbread house, felt unnatural. So instead of getting excited about Christmas, I quietly resisted the holidays in an attempt to protect myself from the fomo-ish feelings that came with one of the most celebrated days of the year.
I’m not sure if any of you relate to this kind of loneliness/mixed feelings during the holidays, but if you do, please reach out. I’d love to cook you a warm meal or do a little gift exchange because sometimes we all need a little warmth, even if it's from someone you don't know.
I'm not particularly outgoing, but starting this business has pushed me to interact with humans outside my normal circle of friends and has allowed me to meet some interesting people. I've mentioned our trading program a few times, and while living the #plantmom life through plant/mochin exchanges is great, the goal of trading is to meet more people in the small business community.
For instance, just today, what I thought would be a 15-minute business call about logistics turned into a 2-hour one about dreams, goals, and aspirations. I even did something very uncharacteristic at the end of the call, initiating to schedule another call the next week!! + with someone I just met!!
The point is, this year we’re doing things differently. We’re going to get excited for Christmas, we’re going all out, baking cookies, starting our own traditions, and doing something special for our friends, distant relatives, and strangers.
We’ve all heard the saying, “Christmas is about giving” and that “happiness comes from making others happy." We also know it's hard to set aside our own happiness to make someone else happy without any expectations to receive something back, but if you don't like where you currently are, and bitterness/avoidance never seemed to help why not try something new?
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It feels like awhile since we've chatted and I hope you're all well. I usually get the winter blues around this time due to the lack of sunlight, but even though we've adjusted our clocks, and 6pm feels more like 10pm, things aren't looking that bad this time around.
Today I've decided to finally open up about what's been going through my head in the last 4 weeks since I quit my job as an account manager at a well paying start-up. There will be several emails over the next few weeks detailing the journey thus far to show you what following your dream means. You guys are the reason The Good Goods exist, it's cheesy but as early investors, supporters, and dreamers, we really want to take you along on the whole experience.
Four weeks ago, I had a chat with my boss after 6 months of contemplating whether I should leave my job, because like so many people I have a dream I want to chase. I didn't want to waste my life away working for someone else, or questioning "what if?" I knew it wasn't going to be easy, but I've always known I wanted to work for myself since the 7th grade when my classmate asked me what I wanted to do, and I wondered to myself before saying "I… don't know, but I want to create something, my own thing and sell it, have people use it… something like that." I thought I was being creative, but he just looked at me, shrugged and said, "Oh you want to be an entrepreneur." So when I cut the cord and decided to leave my job four weeks ago, I thought I was somewhat ready.
But just like how every story needs a conflict, my first few days as "ceo" was freeing until I realized that unless I made this business successful, I'd have to return back to the 9-5 grind for the rest of my life. I admit it might sound a little dramatic, and usually I am, but this time around the doubt scared and depressed me, and I became obsessed with watching the orders come in, what we were spending our money on, and getting into cafes. I couldn't sleep, and I barely ate despite being a lifelong stress snacker, and doubts seeped into my mind. I was jumpy, worried, and on edge, this wasn't just a thing on the side anymore, but my life and I couldn't help but wonder we could make it.
As much as I wanted to update everyone on what's been happening, it wasn't as great as I imagined and that was hard to admit. I take pride in being optimistic when things seem to go astray, and I enjoy a challenge but this felt different because the doubt had come in and I couldn't shake it off, I couldn't help but second guess my ability and this damn business.
But it does get better, so if you'd like to hear more, stick around for the next emails which will be sent over the next few weeks.
On another note, we're unofficially looking for a partner/co-founder for The Good Goods, so if you like people, food, and have a passion for cafe culture + entrepreneurship feel free to send us an email or DM.
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